you’re lovely – Los Angeles Evaluation of Books

, you’re lovely – Los Angeles Evaluation of Books


TWO SIGNS FLANK the nook of Foster and Ashland and inform me that I’m lovely. They inform you that too. They’re democratic, meant for everybody.

One is on the previous Trumbull Elementary marquee, the college closed now, a casualty of the mayor’s 2013 public ed blitzkrieg, and the marquee, as soon as just like the city crier, allotting information and notifying mother and father of the following native college council assembly, repurposed for modern positivism: you’re lovely. Even the typography is democratic, all decrease case.

The opposite, throughout the road — greater, the outsize letters affixed to a chain-link fence enclosing the Swedish Museum’s parking zone — is in cahoots. 

you’re lovely.

It’s inescapable.

That’s how I really feel, stopped on the mild, catching sight of first one after which the opposite. Hemmed in by these converging indicators, this suspicious sentiment. Or possibly the suspicion is all mine. What is that this public treacle? I balk at being compelled to really feel good by indicators put up by feel-good public artists. It’s coercion with a smile.

Once I talked about the you’re lovely signage to my pal M. — who’d seen it as properly, in one other a part of the town, this time towards the backdrop of Lake Michigan — she mentioned it felt like a prayer.

I a lot want this New Yorker cartoon I come throughout just a few days later. It looks like a well-timed act of cultural windfall for individuals who favor the scouring results of actuality to the determined fakery of well-meaning pablum. The cartoon is ready in Occasions Sq.. Throngs of vacationers — a lot of whom are taking photos with their outstretched cell telephones or tablets, units raised in salute to self, kitsch, meals, cash — are dwarfed by the manic commercialism surrounding them. Everyone seems to be jammed collectively, seen from the again, assembled like a congregation in worship of the Sq., aside from one man turned away from the mainstage and stuffing an outsized sandwich in his mouth. Screens reign; even the empty sq. of any individual’s backpack appears to be like like a laptop computer. The indicators — all however McDonald’s, whose arches dominate — dispense with the company signifiers of the shops and lower proper to the chase. You’re too fats/You’re ugly/You’re hungry!/You’re thirsty/Eat now/Eat extra/You’re sexy/You’re poor/You’re very ugly/Be much less ugly/Boobs/Escape/Spend extra $/Simply Fats/You’re nonetheless ugly/You’re dumb. A cab’s high mild will get in on it too: Eat. The packaging has been ripped off, the messages relentless. Warning, insult, mockery, craving. An American flag flies overhead. We don’t know what we’re shopping for however we do.

However how can I want this? One of many You’re ugly indicators (there are three) has a sketch of a barely screw-eyed girl beneath. Are we having enjoyable but?, her goofy expression appears to ask. I welcome the cartoon’s dedication to publicity, to sincere crassness, to sidestepping the admen and attending to the ugly core. You’re hungry, the cartoon exclaims entrance and heart, and though, on its floor, that manipulates and intensifies our urges and turns them into {dollars} (and in case we don’t get it, Spend extra), it’s additionally an acknowledgment that we’re all hungry for one thing, one thing extra.

you’re lovely 

Three quick phrases. One lovely message.


Fifty yab one-and-a-half-inch-by-two-inch stickers, for $10. A yab hoodie in your stickers, $50. A five-pack of postcards for $5. A two-foot cursive arch, free-standing or wall-mounted, $25. A avenue signal, additionally referred to as a Beautification Equipment, in your hood, with slight floor markings [to give it] a captivating rugged look, $25. A rubber stamp equipment (You’ll stamp with satisfaction), $24. Metallic tattoos, basic or cursive, for branding your individual (This tattoo is non permanent. Your magnificence is eternally.), $5. A tough hat, $35. A holographic pillow, $25. A ground mat (Say one thing good in an surprising method), $10. Sensible gloves, $5. A glowing LED mirror, $175.

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Years in the past, once I was a scholar residing in Costa Rica on a espresso farm, neighbors referred to as me gordita, little fats one, meant as a time period of endearment, an appreciation of the plump, (or a nod to the well-fed, una norteamericana con dólares), maybe like pleasingly plump, however I wasn’t happy; I used to be shaken. Sweetly, it meant chubby, and pejoratively, fatso. Once I lookup the phrase now, I see that it may also be a type of deal with, Darling, as in ¡Venga, gordita! No te pongas triste. / Come on darling! Don’t be unhappy.


In 2015, Zimbabwe held its fourth annual Mr. Ugly contest. Ugly wannabes strutted down the catwalk of a Harare nightclub and, to a jumble of cheers, lights, sirens, and percussion, showcased their attributes on stage. One, sporting tribal costume, squeezed out a grimace that regarded near tears; one other, in torn coveralls, smiled ghoulishly, exposing gums caught with random tooth; and a 3rd, in red-and-white-striped prison-like garb and chained wrists, rolled out a beefy tongue and raised his eyebrows leeringly. Thirty-six males vied for the title.

Pageant organizer David Machowa started the competition to dismantle, or no less than reframe, the stigma of ugliness. And to money in on the concept of a magnificence contest. Magnificence contests for ladies, ugly contests for males. “Appears to be like are God given. We must always all be happy with who we’re.” The factors? Judges targeted on facial options, confidence, and responses throughout a Q-and-A session. We’re searching for “pure ugliness,” Machowa mentioned.

The end result itself was contested. Forty-two-year-old Mison Sere gained, with the judges citing his lacking tooth and “grotesque facial expressions,” however rivals claimed he was “too good-looking” to win and his ugliness was illegitimate. A number of accused him of pulling out his tooth intentionally. “Do we have now to lose our tooth to win?” a contestant requested. “I’m naturally ugly,” claimed runner-up and former winner William Masvinu. “He’s ugly solely when he opens his mouth.”

What does it imply to win at being ugly? In Zimbabwe, the place the unemployment price was over 11 p.c, the stakes have been excessive: Mr. Ugly earned $500. Sere, unemployed, “hope[d]to get a TV contract” as a way to showcase his ugliness to a wider viewers. To “carry out” it, as he mentioned, suggesting a way of artifice and the power to take advantage of it, regulate the dial, one other probability to show it into money. Masvinu solely bought $100 for not being ugly sufficient.


As soon as I discover yab, yab appears to search out me. Throughout the 2016 presidential marketing campaign, it confirmed up on my laptop display. I’d been studying about former Klan chief David Duke, who was urging his followers to help Donald Trump, as a result of it might be “treason to your heritage” to not. “Get off your rear finish that’s getting fatter and fatter […] [and] volunteer,” he admonished, his low cost shot to their backsides patently Trumpish.

Then, to the proper of the Duke piece, a sequence of glittering you’re lovely stickers abruptly cascaded down the web page like confetti. Their silver free fall disoriented me. Google, proud companion of the Nationwide Safety Administration, was apparently monitoring my web searches and pitching me an advert. Did I need to purchase a pack of stickers? PayPal conveniently popped up too, to make the transaction straightforward.

In her essay “White Debt,” Eula Biss writes of attempting to view a video of a Black man being shot by a campus police officer — she doesn’t need to watch it, however remembering that Emmett Until’s mom requested the American citizenry to present witness to her son’s physique, Biss begins to look at — then she’s derailed when an Acura industrial opens on her laptop display. “[T]he risk that the taking pictures loss of life of Samuel DuBose in his previous Honda was serving as a possibility to promote Acuras made me shut the window.”

Personally, I saved the tab open: Duke, Trump, Google, PayPal, you’re lovely, jarringly cohabiting the identical web page in Twenty first-century America.

yab additionally discovered me by way of the US mails. Our service misdelivered a you’re lovely postcard to our home that was addressed to a lady one block over. The cardboard was silver grey, shiny, however not garish, the corners rounded as if to take off any edge. The stamp, cancelled by what regarded like waves, was a seashell, noticed brown, which, had I discovered it on a seaside, I might need saved as a memento. you’re lovely, model and slogan, marketed itself as a message on the back and front, a hashtag (#yabsticker), and an internet site (, making certain that even when the cardboard wasn’t meant for you, you may simply purchase one, or if it was meant for you, you may share the sentiment and purchase one for another person.

The errant card fell by our mail slot the day after Halloween. In angular, fine-point cursive, it learn:

Expensive S.
You’re lovely
each inside and outside.
Always remember that!
I like you so very
a lot! 

I walked the cardboard over to its rightful recipient and slipped it in her mailbox, however not earlier than I learn and copied it, as a result of, I advised myself, it partially and providentially belonged to me.

Mommy … What the kid might need referred to as her and what she now calls herself. 

Mommy, pondering of my very own … I can’t even keep in mind what I used to name her.


The phrase ugly is outlined, not by what it describes or appears to be like like, however by what it provokes. It derives from the Thirteenth-century Previous Norse ugglig-r, which means to be feared or dreaded. Offensive to the sight, in Samuel Johnson’s 1755 A Dictionary of the English Language. Ugly orients to not itself however to what’s outdoors itself. It appears to require an viewers. Ugliness is a provocateur: one sees it and feels horror.

Or one sees a beggar.

The Chicago ugly regulation, on the books since 1881 and eventually repealed by the Metropolis Council in 1974, banned anybody who was “diseased, maimed, mutilated, or in any method deformed, in order to be an ugly or disgusting object,” from being within the “public view.” The regulation sought to “abolish all avenue obstructions.” Aimed on the “ugly beggar,” the offense was threefold: being disabled, being poor, being seen. Violators have been fined as much as $50.

Unpleasant, Center English, associated to the Dutch onzichtelijk, invisible, ugly. How may one thing be each invisible and ugly? The primary is actually pushed from sight, unseen, and the second is hyper-seen, or seen to the purpose of obliteration.


My mom by no means preferred me. Bookish and bullied, I wanted her safety, and individuals who want safety are hardly ever preferred by their protectors. She wished me to nap along with her, to lie down subsequent to her, which I discovered suffocating in its intimacy; mortifying. I lay there stiffly, counting the footwear in her closet, as if every pair marked off time. (In secret I might strive them on. As soon as I wore a pair on Halloween, once I dressed up as her.) She was harm. I used to be bizarre, prissy, chilly. I used to be good, which isn’t a profitable trait. She definitely didn’t assume I used to be lovely, inside or out. She thought I used to be topic to enchancment. Why would you need to be pure? she’d mentioned earlier than my nostril job, surgical procedure she’d pushed me to have. She cherished me, a mom’s love for a kid, formal, compulsory, impersonal, having nothing to do with me. Earlier than she died, she mentioned she wasn’t nervous about me, she was nervous about my brother, and that felt like a dismissal, as a result of isn’t fear a type of love?


“Damage, I imagine, is probably the most correct reverse for the phrase magnificence. […] My e-book might need been faulted for not utilizing the phrase ugliness; I simply don’t use it. I simply don’t fairly acknowledge what it’s, what the phrase means. Whereas damage, I very a lot acknowledge what it means. Magnificence presses us to justice, however the spectacle of damage, which could be very near the phrase for injustice, may also press us towards justice” (Scarry).

“If a misfortune troubled a metropolis because of divine wrath, whether or not famine or plague or another disaster, they led out the ugliest individual of all for sacrifice [beating and burning the body], to be the expiation and pharmakos of the struggling metropolis” (Tzetzes).

There’s a class of phrases, in accordance with one Nineteenth-century etymological dictionary, the place sound and bodily responses correlate, the place one imitates and expresses the opposite. Take ache. “A deep […] seated groan, arising extra from psychological than bodily struggling, is represented by the Lat. , vah, G. wehe, AS. wa, from whence our woe, wail.” Or terror. It checks

the motion of the center and depress[es] the very important powers. The shoulders are shrugged ahead, and the arms and closed palms pressed towards the chest, whereas the muscle tissue of the face and jaw are saved inflexible. The deep guttural sound uttered on this situation of the bodily body is imitated in English by the interjection ugh, expressive of […] horror, whence the Scotch and OE. ug, to really feel abhorrence at, to nauseate.

This ugh/ug, the dictionary goes on to say, derives from ugly, finishing the circle: abhorrent, ugh, ugly.

“I got here to see that the work of magnificence is actually the diminuation (sic) of ache and damage” (Scarry). Magnificence as a type of reparation. 


“Which is extra inexpressible, the attractive or the terrifying?” (Ruefle)


you’re lovely is the work of artist and designer Matthew Hoffman, who refers to himself as its Custodian (capitalization his), a designation that appears to counsel that he didn’t a lot as conceive of and design the mission as he was entrusted, by unseen forces, with the job of taking care of it, like a caretaker or guardian. His web site, with its folksy url, is modest and grandiose on the similar time: yab is a mission which betters the world in small methods. It began in 2002, with 100 stickers. “I may put this little sticker up and to not actually say something to anybody however […] nonetheless do one thing actually optimistic.” Now yab is a colonial export, over 5 million stickers distributed globally (one in all which adorns a stuffed toy penguin set in a area of actual penguins in Antarctica, one other caught on the Nice Wall of China), translated into 100 languages, umuhle (Zulu), ti si lijepa (Bosnian), eres hermosa (Spanish), He ataa hua koe i (Maori), kamu candik (Indonesian), ndiwe wokongola (Chichewa), ou bel (Haitian Creole). you’re lovely, you you you and also you.

A couple of summers in the past I purchased a Barbara Kruger postcard, which was stark with accusation, rage, resignation. I purchased it for that purpose. Admit nothing/Blame everybody/Be bitter. And despatched it throughout the nation to a pal. There was some private chitchat on the bottom, however the pink blunt bands with Kruger’s signature Futura Daring font mentioned all of it, illuminating our nationwide second and talking for one thing inside me, regardless that I wasn’t precisely positive what that was. I vaguely questioned if I might be arrested for fomenting unwell will by the postal service, whilst I acknowledged this as a foolish little bit of self-regard. And vaguely hoped that I might, in an inexpensive and martyr-ish form of method. It felt good to be cryptically furious throughout the mails.


Will I be all proper? she requested, pacing up and down the hallway, and I mentioned I didn’t know. She was coughing up blood. And though it’s true that I used to be scared and couldn’t reassure her, it’s additionally true that out of a parsimoniousness of spirit I refused to reassure her, as if there have been an ethical excessive floor available in selecting honesty over consolation; one thing noble about ripping the duvet off and flinging it at her. I don’t know. I wished to be sincere however I additionally wished to be brutal, as if brutality have been extra genuine. She stopped in disbelief, and tore into me. What sort of a daughter are you? Her eyes have been wild, her face clammy. She was sporting a housedress and pretend gold lamé slippers. It was a Friday.


Yesterday, not for the primary time, I noticed the signal Every part Will Be OK. This time it was a yard signal, caught within the grass; the primary time it was within the window of a neighborhood furnishings retailer that focuses on salvaged objects. It made its look within the early days of the pandemic, pablum for panic. It learn like a slogan pulled out of a hat or a cookie. (As soon as, although, I did pull a slogan out of a cookie, after which saved it in my pockets for safekeeping till the strip of paper disintegrated: Nature has neither rewards nor punishments. Solely penalties.) The message on the signal was borrowed from artist Jason Kofke, who’d paired it with numerous photographs: the house shuttle Challenger; particles from Arctic shipwrecks; MLK Drive in Savannah; a Mead composition e-book, the place the phrase was handwritten 5 thousand instances which, in its deadening mixture, was a protracted stutter of desperation. Baldwin as soon as mentioned you need to be immune to the slogan: “It all the time hides one thing else.” This slogan was hiding, although not very properly, worry, and the obscure hope that the virus would show to be passing. It was additionally hiding an aversion to pondering, as a substitute falling again on wishing and hoping (which Dusty Springfield, after giving it a go, solid apart: “You gained’t get him / Thinkin’ and a-prayin’, wishin’ and a-hopin’”).

Actually, the signal was provisional. It got here down. The shop is open for enterprise now. Capitalism is again within the saddle. I’m partaking. Within the morning I am going subsequent door to the furnishings retailer, to my present favourite espresso store, and purchase a cappuccino. Every part Will Be OK. Is the signal gone as a result of the want was fulfilled, or is the signal gone as a result of the want can’t be fulfilled and a few issues go on anyway? Police killings go on, as an illustration. White supremacy goes on, though indicators in my predominantly white neighborhood now decry it. Statues come down, too, with no less than 33 Columbuses toppling. The one in St. Paul was yanked down by a rope tied round its neck, about 10 miles from the place the life was squeezed out of George Floyd’s neck.

There are such a lot of indicators, however what do all of them imply?


We put a BLM check in our entrance yard, between the periwinkle and the hostas. Is it a garden decoration, a protest, a declaration, a requirement, an outcry, a plea? I didn’t need to be unnoticed of the dialog, left on the sidelines which, because it occurs, just isn’t all the time a impartial zone; think about Colin Kaepernick, who took a knee there after which was denied entry to his well-paid however harmful job. Silence is complicity, however there’s an indication that already says that. (But wasn’t I already a part of the dialog, the identical brutal dialog that Carolyn Bryant, as an illustration, was a part of when her husband and brother-in-law murdered Emmett Until and threw him within the Tallahatchie River?) George Floyd took a knee too, on the neck, on the carotid artery, outdoors of Cup Meals, and it was after his homicide and the storm that adopted that our alderman provided his constituents a BLM signal, and we took one. I used to be a part of the dialog, too, marching in two demonstrations — one signal, held by the man in entrance of me, learn 400 yrs, 8 min, 46 sec — till COVID anxiousness took maintain after which I watched from the sidelines. What’s the dialog? It’s not the discuss Black mother and father have with their youngsters in regards to the police who could cease, frisk, cuff, and kill them. Am I speaking to different white individuals who stroll their canines and strollers down the road? The 2 homosexual guys throughout the road, whom we’ve by no means met however waved to on their method again from the nook beer backyard, in showy solidarity? The Black FedEx man? He delivered our new stationary bike as we speak, made in China, and on sale for $454, free delivery. He helped Ann push it into the home as a result of it weighs over 100 kilos.

We haven’t suffered for having a BLM signal however others have. Ours hasn’t been defaced or our home windows damaged. Nobody has tagged our yard with racist graffiti. (In Kenosha, white folks painted over the BLM murals, preferring LOVE.) We’ve expressed our help scot-free (scot being an archaic time period for a tax paid to a sheriff or bailiff). However in rural Wisconsin, a home violence shelter put up a BLM signal, adopted by an announcement in help of BLM rules, and every week later misplaced $25,000 in funding. “In the event that they’re gonna be blowing the horn for Black Lives Matter,” a rustic board member mentioned, “we’re not gonna give them the $25,000.”). The county, for its half, blew the horn for regulation enforcement. “Keep in your lane,” police officers suggested shelter workers. Subsequently the Sheriff’s Division severed all ties with the company.


On Halloween, our next-door neighbors laid out a blanket and had a picnic of their entrance yard, munching on boozy gummy bears, whereas we put out a makeshift desk with luggage of sweet, which the squirrels shortly tore into, burying the M&M’s not removed from the BLM signal. There’s a Nest check in our yard as properly (Nest is a Google product), signaling to would-be intruders that our home is protected 24/7 towards them, as a result of we have been robbed three years in the past, after we have been unprotected. I didn’t and don’t need to be the form of one that has a safety system, however I additionally didn’t need to be the form of one that bought robbed and had her laptop and back-ups stolen. The system value 4 {dollars}, however we bought a reduction by the son of a pal, who works at Google, and really useful it. (By my laptop, Google surveils me, and thru a Google product, I can surveil, i.e., determine, robbers.) The Nest signal is a pleasant blue and formed like a protect. Generally we go away the home with out turning it on, in informal defiance.


you’re lovely has acquired nothing however good press. signal sows cheer   messages of positivity brighten your day  Chambers of Commerce find it irresistible. No rocks, shattered glass, insurance coverage claims. No misplaced enterprise. It’s on the wall of my hair salon, the place your hair may be coloured, chin waxed, forehead threaded, décolleté spray tanned: the glad alliance of artwork, cash, and self-improvement, as a result of even when you’re lovely, you’ll be able to by no means be lovely sufficient.       

After which there’s love@properties, one other yab mission. love the place you’re @ (echoes of Stephen Stills’s love the one you’re with), pairing lowercase cursive love with residential actual property gross sales.


I’ll always remember this so long as I reside. She mentioned this when she didn’t have lengthy to reside. We have been stopped at a light-weight, or in entrance of a chain-link fence, the automobile operating. Reminiscence rearranges issues for its personal comfort. There was an empty area on the opposite facet of the fence. It was spring. Some weedy wildflowers crowded in. There was nowhere to go besides in reverse. We have been going procuring; that’s what we did collectively; tried on garments at Hit or Miss. Within the entrance seat of the automobile, we regarded forward, emptying our voices right into a vacuum. Neglect what? I mentioned. She didn’t reply straight away. Neglect what? I used to be determined for a solution. Lastly she mentioned, and with finality, When you don’t know, I can’t inform you.


Of their Self-importance Truthful essay on artwork and activism, author Danez Smith suggests you’ll be able to’t learn the indicators with out the frames. The body is a part of the image. The summer season rebellion is spent and Smith is just too, and now they’re immersing themselves within the artwork and the injury, the ache and the rupture. Minneapolis is a boarded-up canvas. George Floyd, BLM, MLK, Fuck 12, Breonna Taylor. Slogans, murals, propaganda, pleas. Kitchen Window is the body; Apple is the body; City Outfitters is the body; Sephora is the body. Cash, cash all over the place, is the body. Sephora, Smith notes, is painted in trans flag colours and a black fist with a reside pink coronary heart inside. Why does Sephora get to be lovely on behalf of my folks?


Our BLM signal stands below the cover of the linden, which spreads throughout the entrance yard, casting its leafy shadow. We purchased the tree in Cedar Rapids, the place Ann’s mother and father lived, and wedged it into the hand-me-down VW bug they gave us, 40 or so years in the past, our first automobile, free, no curiosity. After we planted it, we had no thought it might get so massive. We had no thought it might scent so good both, its modest yellow flowers sweetly scented. Or that each few seasons we’d have to rent knowledgeable tree trimmer to maintain it in verify. We purchased the home at across the similar time, for $47,000, a cut price even then. Our mother and father gave us cash for the down cost. Now we personal it outright. No loans, no liens on the property, simply fairness.

Earlier than the BLM signal, we had a Hate Has No Residence Right here signal. The signal appeared in response to the 2017 Muslim Ban, an Govt Order barring overseas nationals from seven nations entry into the USA. Twitter and Fb lit up with breathless calls to motion — LAX Bradley Int’l! — and allies instantly rallied on the designated airport in help of the detainees. Ann and I did that, speeding off to O’Hare with our signal (yet one more) and our good intentions. On the prepare we met the feminine lead within the Chicago manufacturing of Hamilton, who requested if she may take our image. We have been the celebs now.

Quickly, an ad-hoc group group, primarily based within the metropolis’s most demographically various neighborhood, got here up with Hate Has No Residence Right here, translated into 5 languages — Arabic, Hebrew, Spanish, Korean, and Urdu. We put one in our lounge window, however I used to be all the time a little bit uncomfortable with its awkward alliteration and self-claiming righteousness. Hate Has No Residence Right here, however what may you depend on us to do, precisely? A query that grew to become much more urgent final week when a Black man got here to our door demanding one thing, his anger palpable, his request undecipherable, and subsequently ripped the BLM signal out of our yard.


Hannah Arendt, discussing the publish–World Battle I era in Europe, famous

its curious combination of despair and joie de vivre, its contempt for standard codes of conduct, and its penchant for “taking part in it cool,” which expressed itself […] in Germany in a widespread pretense of wickedness. […] In Berlin, one joked about this modern inverted hypocrisy, as one joked about every little thing: “Er geht böse über den Kurfürstendamm” — which means, “That’s in all probability all of the wickedness he’s able to.” After 1933 […] no one joked about wickedness anymore.

I learn that with a jolt. No person joked about wickedness anymore. Can the identical be mentioned for the years since 2016? After we’ve been immersed in unrestrained public cruelty, what’s the joke? Is it indefensible now to laud You’re poor  You’re very ugly  You’re dumb? What’s improper with just a few million you’re lovely stickers plastered throughout the globe?

Wanting on the yab web site just lately, I noticed they’d launched a digital winter artwork exhibit: 150 artists from around the globe had been invited to finish the phrase you’re — and the works are up on the market now. Many had already bought, you’re cherished, you’re radiant, you’re stardust, you’re hearth, however one notably had not, you’re THE IMPOSTER.


The signal on the window of the C. G. Jung Heart in Evanston says Be Extra Human, suggesting that human is nice and extra is best. However aren’t we human sufficient? Isn’t that how we bought right here, with our surfeit of humanness. “it’s onerous to stay human on a day / when birds perch weeping / within the bushes and the squirrel eyes / don’t look away however the canine ones do / in pity” (Clifton). Be extra humane, Ann counters once I level out the signal. Be extra animal, she provides.


After she died, I dressed her up for the grave. Piser Weinstein gave scant standards; no valuables, they burdened. I wished her to be snug. If I selected pants, would I’ve to incorporate the calf-length girdle? What about her breast prosthesis? She would by no means exit with out it, however she suffered the loss it signified. Now the consolation or discomfort was all mine. I wished her to look good as a result of she’d wished to look good. I used to be useless on her behalf. She was a looker, a pal had as soon as mentioned, however this was not how she noticed herself. She noticed herself as fats. Within the image above my desk, she’s not fats. That’s the image my pal was when she referred to as my mom a looker. She appears to be like winsome my father’d as soon as mentioned. She appears to be like simply harm. She’s sporting the brown brocade costume I buried her in. We used to decorate as much as go downtown. We took the Kimball bus, the L, and the subway and emerged out of the darkish tunnel into the basement of Marshall Discipline’s. Then we went as much as the primary ground. Gloves, millinery, Frango mints, hosiery, fragrance. “Right here we go […] on the shipless ocean. Pity us, pity the ocean, right here we go” (Carson). It took an hour to get there.


Peggy Shinner is the author of You Feel So Mortal/Essays on the Body (University of Chicago Press). “you are beautiful” is from a book in progress on shame.


Featured picture: “You Are Beautiful Urban Street Art Portland” by Tony Webster is licensed below CC BY 2.0. Picture has been cropped.



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